The Eleven Week Rebuilders Seminar is based on the best-selling book, Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends, written by renowned divorce recovery therapist, Dr. Bruce Fisher. The Rebuilding book has been translated into eighteen languages and the book remains a bestseller, more than thirty years after its original publication. The Rebuilding Seminar is currently offered in numerous cities across the United States, as well as in other countries. The Rebuilding book and seminar are among the most effective resources for helping people heal from the pain of separation and divorce. Through the Rebuilders class, participants learn how to turn the painful and difficult ending of a love relationship into an opportunity for personal growth and learning.   

Fisher identified nineteen “rebuilding blocks” in his divorce recovery model and he believed that working through these steps of divorce recovery could take up to several years. Join others in this journey, to work through Dr. Fisher’s 19 Rebuilding blocks and progress towards healing and recovery from separation, divorce or the ending of a love relationship. Through the Rebuilders class, participants learn how to turn the painful and difficult ending of a love relationship into an opportunity for personal growth and learning. Rebuilding participants enjoy fellowship and support from their classmates who are coping with similar life circumstances, as they work through the healing process and rebuild confidence.

  Dr. Fisher's Rebuilding Blocks:

  Freedom   Sexuality  Singleness   

Purpose/Openness   Love  Trust  Relatedness

  Grief  Anger     Letting Go      Self Worth  Transition

  Denial  Fear  Adaptation  Loneliness  Friendship  Guilt/Rejection

Session One: Rebuilding Blocks - Introductions, seminar overview, group guidelines, interactive group activity with Dr. Fisher’s 19 rebuilding blocks.

Session Two: Fear/Denial/Loneliness - Struggle over why relationship ended, denial of relationship ending, fear and anxiety related to change and the unknown.

Session Three: Adaptive Behaviors - Healthy/unhealthy adaptive behaviors from childhood and impact on attachment,  development & dynamics of love relationships. Introduction to our "internal family".

Session Four: Grief/Rejection/Guilt - Symptoms and stages of grief, managing and working through grief, navigating rejection and/or guilt, positive self-care, introduction to goodbye letter.

Session Five: Anger/Letting Go - Identifying symptoms of anger, learning new skills for coping and processing, healthy ways to express anger, process of disentanglement and “getting unstuck.”

Session Six: Self-Worth

Impact of loss of romantic relationship on self-worth, strategies to improve self-worth and self-acceptance, development of healthy personality traits and positive affirmations.

Session Seven: Transition/Seeking My Identity - Influences on personal identity, Fisher’s theory of growth and development; participant sharing related to identity seeking process.

Session Eight: Openness, Trust and Growing Relationships - discussion of masks, activity for sharing and removing mask(s), increasing authenticity to enhance emotional closeness and intimacy, growing relationships.

Session Nine: Love - Definitions of love, types of romantic relationships, importance of boundaries, traits of healthy relationships, developing a loving relationship with oneself.

Session Ten: Singleness, Purpose and Freedom - Focus on personal growth, shifting identity, growing relationships and redefining purpose.

Session Eleven - Graduation Celebration Looking towards the future; ins and outs of dating & relationships, positive affirmations; reflections on growth and learning during seminar.